Deepawali at home with parents

It was a sweet delight to be with my parents this deepawali  after  8 years.  Last time I celebrated deepawali was with my parents in Varanasi (which I still miss). My first one in Kerala, since we settled here.

Deepawali in Kerala was quite different from that in Varanasi. Beginning of the day was as usual, early morning wake up with loads of work on head. After breakfast I was assigned my task, to clean the area near ceiling and high end corners of the house (best reward for being the tallest member of the family). Mom was the commander in chief, who would assign task to people with stipulated time period.We had to complete our work on time to ensure evening pooja is done before its too late.

Once cleaning of house was over, I had a new task in hand, make battis to be put in the diyas. I actually ended up making lot more than what was expected. I was doing it by watching TV, because it was a boring task. You can give me any boring task with an access to watch TV and I can do it.

It was 5 by the time battis got over now I had to put diyas all around the house and helped mom in pooja arrangement. Dad and my wife poured oil to the diyas and got dressed for the pooja.  Mom did pooja in pure north Indian style, myself, dad and wife was sitting around here.

After pooja it was time for celebration first task was to lit the diyas, then firewoks, we didn’t buy much crackers, health issues and no interest in bursting crackers. It reminds me of my childhood days, when I used to request dad to get me more and more crackers for 2 days (in north deepawali is celebrated for 2 days). As I grew up, my interested got shifted from bursting crackers to watching people burst crackers.

My wife and dad were busy bursting crackers, me and mom were looking at them enjoy the fun of festival. Then it was time to enjoy sweets, 2 types of laddo and kaju barfi, dad just loves it. Suddenly power went off, it was a spectacular view to watch the house with bright light being

It was good to be at home with parents to celebrate deepawali. Being with your loved one, makes any festival special and brighten their life as well. Looking forward to celebrate more such festival with loved ones in the days to come.

Are parent’s burden on their grown up children?

Satyamev Jayate’s revelation was shocking for me and many like me looking at the treatment meted out to parents at the hands of their children.  For parents children are their world and they are ready to do numerable sacrifices for them at any given point of time. Parent’s affection can be understood well only when you become parents.  Teenagers & grown up children keep nagging that their parents don’t understand them and they don’t know “what to do next?”

It’s difficult for kids to understand why parents are harsh on them at time but by the time they understand the things, it’s too late in some cases. Parents spend their entire life in our upbringing thinking that in their old age we can be with them as their support system.  Very few parents are fortunate to fulfill this dream.

Today’s money savvy economy has made children so selfish that they don’t even hesitate to kill their parents for money. How can one do it? Doesn’t his /her conscious stop them from doing such things? Our parents were there with us when we needed care and support, then why can’t we be with them?

It’s the first time that I turned off TV when Satyamev Jayate was on air. 2 incidents from the show forced to do it. 

Incident 1 – A son orders his mother to vacate the house by evening, if she doesn’t do so he will consume poison in front of her. Mother was left with no other option but to leave the house. Even at that point of time, mother was thinking about the well-being of her son and his long life. Son had taken her entire savings before throwing her out like a penny less beggar. 

Incident 2- A remote village in Tamil Nadu kill elder people who are either bed ridden or can’t do their day to day activity. Doctors help them in their act by injecting elders by poisonous injection. People who do it are happy and tell about it proudly.

Despite all the incident parents are still in with love their children and are waiting to unite with them before they leave the world. Parents don’t want our money they only want our unconditional love. It’s the same thing which parents had given us when we were kid. Bringing up a child a tough task when they were ready to take it, why can’t we take our responsibility of being with them. 

Our existence today is because of them, had they thought that bringing up a child is a tough task and said to no baby? Giving birth to a child is like defying death because of the painful process but still women take the decision to become mother. 

India is known in world for its rich culture and tradition. Couples from foreign destinations are coming to India to tie nuptial note thinking they could have a happy married life ahead. We teach world how to respect our elders but we are forgetting it ourselves. Parents are visible god, then how can one harm them so brutally.