Disastrous drive out of Forum parking lot

Forum is one of the most popular mall in Bangalore, since it was the first mall. Anytime you visit forum it is thronged with people. On weekends people struggle to locate a place to park their car or bike. Weekdays are much better.

Forum has mutillevel parking and it is pretty difficult for new driver to park their car in there. 26^th January, me, my wife and my brother-in-law(brother) decided to visit forum. Brother loves forum than any other mall, since he get good deal on CDs and DVDs at crossword there.

A signal before brother asked me will I be able to park the car in forum or needed his help. I asked him to park the car for me. We changed seats and brother drove us to parking. On reaching the mall we dispersed our selves. My and wife went to the food court their while brother went to look out for CDs. 

After spending close 2 hours we decided to head back home since we had to go for work the next day. Brother asked  me take the car out, I told it would be better, if he could do it. But he wanted me to learn it so I took control on driver’s seat.  Exit had slope like structure, with great difficulty I took the car to mid way and stopped for the other car to pass by.

This time when I tried to move the car in upward direction it started going down, I had no idea about what was happening? I tried one more time again the car started going back. Luckily the driver in the car behind us didn’t move his car up, I guess he has seen the L board in the car. Suddenly people gathered around the car offering help to drive it up.

Me and wife were too scared but brother was cool. With option in hand I asked brother to take the car out. I didn’t drive car back home asked brother to do it since the trauma of the incident was haunting me.

Just imagine if the car behind us has placed it just behind us some very big could have happened but his presence of mind saved the situation.   

A day out with my cousin

This was Unni’s first visit to Bangalore post marriage, prior to it she came to Bangalore for writing exams.  She used to stay with me then, this time she was coming here for attending “house warming” function from her in laws side. Was dying to meet her ,since it was our first interaction post wedding. 

She went directly to her in-laws place on 27^th Jan. Function was on 28^th, hence we decided to meet after the function and go out for shopping at M.G.Road. Then to my flat and from there she can go to station to board the train.

Things didn’t go as planned. Morning when we about to leave for the function, my car’s central locking system developed some problem, resulting which door from driver’s got jammed. We took it to the shop where it was installed, they told mechanic will come to our place by 3 pm due to his prior work commitments. On way back home we realized that petrol in car is  less, once we reached petrol bunk, we realized that petrol tank can’t be opened as it is connected to central locking system. We could still travel 30 km now.

Finally mechanic came and things got resolved, we headed straight to meet Unni. Unni was too happy to see us and wanted to come to my flat at the earliest. On reaching my flat we indulged in to chit chat. Post that I showed her my wedding pics and few other pic. By 11.30 pm she started feeling hungry then we had noodles, all this time Unni was with me talking, while my wife was at bed and Unni’s husband was watching TV.

It was 12 am, Unni was tired but still she wanted to talk. Then I asked her to go to bed as she had a hectic day. Morning I me and my wife work up early to prepare breakfast for Unni. By 9.30 we were free but Unni was still sleeping finally by 10 she woke up and then we had our breakfast. She wanted  to do some shopping so headed toward MG. She picked up few things in hurry and then we headed straight to her in laws place. She was suppose to leave from there. All through the way we were busy talking but even after that we felt our talk was less. My wife and brother –in-law has seen me talking so much for the 1^st time.

Unni wanted to  shop more but due to time constrain , she was not able to do so. I have invited her to visit Bangalore one time but with long days of leave. Then we can go for shopping and plan some outing together.

Waiting eagerly for her next to Bangalore!

My first driving experience on driver seat

I was always passionate about driving car, once I learned bike and stated taking it out. Since childhood I had traveled a lot in car but only sitting at the back seat since drivers were there to drive where ever I wanted to go. Usually mom would be there in car and I needed to check with her to go anywhere. I could go in car only if mom was free or she was not going out that time. Work first then leisure.

During graduation days I learned car driving from a driving school for about a month and could drive decently then. Riding on the confidence of driving car tried my hands on ambassador car but it was unsuccessful, that was the last time when I drove car. 

After 10 years again I was compelled to drive car and time with no option in hand. Reason was I was gifted a car by my brother in law as our wedding gift. He wanted me to drive it immediately after our wedding but I was not allowed fearing some mishap. Because it was a big car and people were afraid I might put scratches on it in the process of driving it.

Post wedding we used to visit our relatives in hired auto, taxis and in buses at some cases. When we see any Honda city parked anywhere or people driving it we looked at it with sadness and despair. During all this time my brother in law was too low that we were unable to use his gift and it has become a show piece. 

Finally my brother in law decided to get the car to Bangalore from Kerala. He got it here and with an hours time he took me out for a drive to check my driving skills. He was impressed by it and asked me to take car next time when I go out. Very next day me and my wife took car to a nearyby mall to buy vegetables and other things. We were trembling with fear till we reached home.

Our real test was next when we went together to an office for some official purpose and on way back we decided to visit kempfort. By the time we were out of temple it was 6 pm road was full of cars, buses and bikes. We had to be back home with me on drivers seat and wife at other seat. It took us 2 hours to reach home but both of couldn’t believe it was me who was driving it. It was pretty well.

My focus was only on driving and looking after the objects on my side, while my wife would guide me about the distance to be maintained from other side. We both had to be alert all time to keep going. We didn’t even speak much except the guidance from sides. Though I was driving all throughout but still I asked my wife to pinch me to make me feel its really happening. To save us from any untoward incident we had pasted an L sign both in front as well as back side of the car.

On reaching home we were very happy but more than us my brother in law was happy, that finally I was achieved what he wanted me to achieve? Had he not been there I couldn’t have ever taken the care despite my utmost desire and the fear of scratches. Only place were I face difficulty is to cross humps, car gets stop their, hope to cover it soon as well.

But it fun driving, isn’t it

Why can’t wife’s be with their husband and family?

Marriage is considered the most auspicious event in an individual’s life. It’s the beginning of a new life which is going to be different from the one lived so far. Both parties need to adjust a lot to make things moving in life else can part ways before things turn nasty. Guys don’t have much to sacrifice after marriage. Sacrifices are done mostly done by women not only during marriage but even after.

Girls have to leave their house, parents, relatives and friends and accept her husband with his family. Initially it is difficult for girls to adjust things but later on they get used to it. During wedding girls father hand over his daughter’s hand to the guys hand whereby he gives full responsibility of his daughter to her husband.

Husbands try their level best to make their wife’s comfortable at house and with his relatives because from now on she need to take care of them in the way, her husband has taken care of them. Married girls get respect, love , affection from her husband and his relative because from now she is the one who will be taking care of their son and will be responsible for taking the family tree to next level.

Despite such attempt  by husband’s, when wife’s decide to stay by her family on any occasion, husband’s get annoyed and feel cheated. Reason being husband’s effort to appease his wife by standing for her has failed or she was just using him for one thing or the other. Come what ever wife’s will always stand by her family side and justify their claim. Very rarely they will stand by her husband or his family. 

Wife’s just want her husband along with her family to move ahead. They don’t want her husband’s family in her life and ensure that his family is kept at a distance. Even while doing so why can’t they think for a while that “when she want her family then how can her husband survive without his”?

Married women have 2 family and house one her own other one of her husband. When she sees that situation at her house is not good she switches to her husband’s house and stick their but if her family is in a better position then she will stick to her family ignoring her husband. Its very difficult to say whether your wife is with you or with her family. Only situations can answer it. 

It is always said daughter’s house is the one where they get married off not the house where they were born. Girl’s are aware about but they don’t want to accept it and try to manage things other way round. There are very few girls who stick to her husband and his family all throughout, such guys are really lucky. 

I think its high we guys need to take a stand and ask our wife’s to make her stand clear. We have no problem in you being with your family as we also need our family but given a chance to stand for your husband even if its with against your family, you should stand by him. If wife’s can’t do so its high time she  need to decide which way she want to head. But we guys will never allow our parents love and affection being used by someone just because of being our wife on paper and not in deeds.