Don't know how holidays pass by..

It was a long weekend from 25dec - 27th dec, cool 3 days at home, had been planning for it since the beginning of December. Thought of going to church followed by a small trip to M.G. Road. be there till late night. But dreams are far away from reality, if things do start happening at the inception of thoughts then life would have been much more easy.

Reached home too late on 24, was too tired just went to bed to wake up by 8 on 25 dec. Was getting ready for church when I received a call to meet a friend urgently for some work, things were unavoidable so had to leave. By the time my meeting was over with him, it was pass 2pm, as the place was close to my cousin's house went to meet him. He also had 2 days off me too had no plans as things went hay ware. He packed his bags and we left for my place. Since I was too tired, he took responsibility of preparing the dinner, helped him little.

Saturday and Sunday was fun with him watching movie, going out, chatting, shopping, cooking. Both of us were quite relaxed as our schedules are hectic, we needed break from it. Though things didn't turn up the way it was planned but whatever had happened was beyond my planning and expectation.

Didn't even realize our merry making days are gone till he left for his place yesterday and I prepared for office. We always plan for various things but at-times should even go for planned events..its great fun as I had...

Days ahead without Sunil (my manager)

Sunil was suppose to be discharged from his duties and responsibilities as Marketing Manager siliconindia.com today ie 22nd dec 09, we had planned a small surprise for him. But to our utter shock, we were told by lunch time,"today is his last day in office"ie 21 dec 09. We were not prepared for it, his gift was at my colleagues place close to office.

First we did was to compose ourselves and make arrangements to get the gift, without letting him know about it. We had lunch as early as possible to leave office before he drops in post lunch-break. By the time we were back he was at his desk, trying to wind up left over work. Cautiously I hid the gift in my helmet avoid his attention. He was suppose to leave by 4 pm.

By 3 pm all of us gathered at his desk to handover his farewell gift, a wrist watch along with a card. He was delighted to receive it from our end and promised a team lunch some time this week. Wished all of us gosdluck for future but for me, abhra & jaya he had something else to be said." All 3 of us should get married at the earliest and invite him for the same".

Post exchange of gift, I was too sad on the verge of an emotional break down. Reason for it was that I started my career under him, it has been two and half years since we were together. Just to make me comfortable he was cracking jokes to make the atmosphere cool. When I was about to leave for the day he told not to cry on reaching home. Didn't assured him anything and left the place.

Their has been a turn around since I joined office, all those who had joined before ma had left the firm. New face have taken their place but its not easy to be comfortable with them.

Today it was too difficult to be at my desk without Sunil next to me, a habit of 30 months. Initially it was bit difficult but as the hours are passing by am coming to terms with reality. Seems like things have changed a lot from yesterday till today. Now I need to move forward all my self without any support from any one.

My manager's resignation

People would love to hate their managers than admiring them or learning expertise under his supervision. This was my notion much before I joined office, all my friends used to tell tales of their managers at respective workplaces. They are devils who would love to screw your happiness at any given point of time.

Things are not the same for every one, my manager was entirely different from others. Till date he has never scolded me an achievement in itself. When ever mistakes occurred, he was more prone to know about the cause than shouting and hauling. Nobody commits mistakes intentionally, as none like scolding. At times when matter used to be serious he used conference room to discuss the problem, amicable way of dealing issues.

When at work he was my manager other time we were more of friends. He never tolerated any compromise in work related issues. Always motivated us to move forward in career, forced team members to use their grey matter present in brain. Had always given space for creativity and new ideas to throng in. That could be one of the reason why I have achieved success at a short span of time.

Like any other day I was busy with my work when Sunil informed us about his resignation, we thought he was kidding, as cracking jokes is a part of his life. But when his resignation letter was before us, we realized the seriousness of matter. It was a big shock to us, still trying to recover from it. We even requested him to reconsider his decision but he was head strong.

Don't know what future holds for me but am proud to start my career under him, have learned a lot from him, especially people management skills. Will miss him for sure and if given an opportunity to work under him again their is no second thought to it.

Hope more employees find managers like to work with...

A day without AC in office

May the impact of global warming the climatic conditions has changed drastically around the world. Bangalore was know as air conditioned city few years ago but now people can't people without AC during day time. Morning n evening time is pretty cool usually in comparison to afternoon. Most offices in bangalore are have centralized AC to maintain normal temperature due to the presence of glass chambers in office, which absorb more heat.

Yesterday when I turned of our zones AC found it was not functioning, as it was not responding to remote. Immediately informed our office guy about it, he in turn called up mechanic to fix up the problem. After reviewing AC it was discovered problem was bit major, will take a day or two for rectification. Me and manager were thinking of the days ahead with AC.

Though fans were there to cool to the temperature but by afternoon started feeling like fever was not able to concentrate on work even. By evening it became unbearable for me to sit in office and left for home early as has developed severe headache by then. Don't have AC in my house but can survive there not in workplace. Seems like its because of the temperament one has towards things.Night it was pretty cold so didn't even turn on the fan even.

Mechanics were suppose to drop in today but they didn't turn up. I was prepared for it so am not feeling uncomfortable today as it was yesterday. My manager is one person who can't survive without AC in office, even if its raining or has snowfall outside. The moment he comes to office first thing done by him is to adjust the temperature of AC. If we complain he tells us either to shift our seat or bring woolens to office, left with no other option sit in cool temperature.

We should try to avoid these things once in a blue moon to test our ability to survive without them. Don't you feel the same..

Hectic monday post weekends

Holidays are always fun be it small vacation or weekends. This is the only time when you are able to pay bit attention to oneself. First weekends of the months are bit tiring as one to shop all house hold stuff for the month. Some of us even has to go out to pay electricity bills more tiring job. All these activities are usually conducted at day time to enjoy night out with friends.

This weekend was bit hectic for me, had appointment with doctor for routine check up Saturday evening. Morning was with my cousins (followed by a small nap in afternoon), though we stay next to each other but can catch up only on weekends. Post consultation went for window shopping, but did get all things which I was in need of. Climate was getting cold and had to take dinner even so left the shopping mall for home.

On way back had dinner from my favorite restaurant this time all alone as all my friends were busy. Reached home and glued before the idiot box till 12 am, to wake up by 8 am on sunday with full drowsiness in eyes. Somehow had breakfast then was again to bed but slept till 12 pm , prepared lunch again was on bed till 4pm. As night approached started planning for next weekend.

Biggest challenge on monday is the sleep syndrome after effect of afternoon naps. Mondays are hectic because of compilation of two days, once you adore your chair all enjoyment vanish into thin air by the hard facts before ones eyes.

Whatever it is holidays are always fun and people look forward to it..

What happened in my last birth? Raaz pichhle janam ka

NDTV imagine has come out with a new reality show "Raaz pichhle janam ka " secret of your past life. Here participants will go in their past life and know the cause of any problem which is tormenting their present day life. Entire process seems to be bit risky but is conduced under the supervision of a doctor.

Couldn't believe my eyes when saw participants going to their past life and coming back safe, but can't imagine the trauma which they would have undergone during the process. Somewhere feel like a person privacy is at stake. Don't know about our past life deeds if things are good fine but we had bad experience or action our present life my also be effected by it. We are sharing our life in front of the world.

Channel is minting money at the behest of innocent people. People get instant publicity by participating in such shows make be for a day or 2 but in the long run it doesn't help. Given an opportunity even I may be a part of reality but not at the stake of my privacy and family.

It is often said we shouldn't dig the debris as don't know what it folds in self? Same is the case with this show participants are not aware of what would unfold to them.

Buying pain with money

Who doesn't want a good body which would come people to turn around once? To acquire it people adopt various ways to suit their needs like dieting, hitting gym, yoga to name a few. Often going on diet is the primary step adopted by most of us as it is easy and doesn't cost much. Nobody wants to get out of their comfort zone but want to achieve results.

My work requires me to sit in front of system for a longer period of time. Of-late I started putting on weight evident from my small tummy which was at the verge of inception. Putting T-shirts with tummy didn't go well with me, immediately decided upon reducing weight before its too late. Started dieting gave up outside food, less oil in food preparation, less food but no respite.

Finally decided to hit gym at last resort had it in past even so was confident about the outcome. First 3 days were hell, full body was on ache couldn't even sleep well,but in hope of getting good physique beard it with full courage. Result was visible in 3 months because don't strain myself to the core because of back ache.Then hitting gym became a part of my life, couldn't do without it. Befriended few people in gym who guided me to in achieving my target.

But hitting gym after vacations were very painful, had to motivate myself a lot to do so. Often used to think why am I paying money for this pain. Daily while doing exercise also one has to bear pain when weights are increased, seems like their is no strength left in body.Have heard people screaming in pain when they try to lift weight beyond their capacity.

But this pain has a hidden pleasure engulfed in it, that's the reason why people go for it. Best way to motivate oneself is imagination. Won't you try once.

Wonderful shopping experience @ Total madivala

Shopping is a pain but can't do without it, every month need to go for buying household commodities. People throng malls like anything during weekends to buy things for the next one week or month together.Visiting malls are convenient because everything is available at one place. Quality of the products could be relied upon blind folded.

Like every month went to Total @ madivala, first floor had undergone renovation so was bit difficult to locate things initially. Luckily they didn't do much renovation in customer durable section it was the same. While getting things it strike me to get drainex to unblock kitchen sink. Not being able to find it in self took help from one of the sales guy their "reply was if its not in shelf then we don't have it". I was bit disappointed as its need was urgent for me.

A lady may be the floor supervisor saw my interaction with the sales person and asked what was I looking for? Told her want drainex she asked me to wait for 2 min and went to check it herself with the sales guy standing there. When she came back had drainex in her hand and even guided to the shelf where it was stocked. Felt too happy at the gesture of that lady, who was discharging her duties and responsibilities to the fullest. As moved forward found her reviewing each and every section of the corner to facilitate people who needed help.

Had been shopping their for quite sometime now but this was my most memorable experience where I got a taste of what being cared for was?

How difficult it is to say "No"?

Most of us would have come across this situation at point of their life when they had to say no to someone close to them. With strangers its not an issue, we don't even think twice to use the term, difficulty arise with our family and friends. A single word can harm many so use of the word and situation must be tactful.

Today came across such situation where a friends of mine had put forward an unrealistic demand in front of me. Usually I accept his demand and do the needful but today said no to him. I didn't want to stake our friendship so had to spend some time in making things clear to him. But still feel of guilt has engulfed me, seems like can't forget his last words. Though he was compose but his voice was not complementing his gesture.

Will talk to him for clarifying my stand but not now, he won't listen to me or things may go worse. This feeling is temporary but still keep taunting throughout till it gets subsided. But one thing is for sure I will stick to my stand come whatever it may. To achieve something good you need to make some sacrifices will consider this incident one among them.

Taking stands are easy but implementing it on someone close it very difficult at time people even change their decision to avoid certain situations.

Differciating between good and evil

Its difficult to follow the path of honestly, sincerity and goodness in long run, utmost a person can follow it for a month or more not beyond that. Often thought about it but finding an answer was a tough deal so decided to follow the path myself. Initially things were easy because of enthusiasm but of late it started becoming difficult one day finally gave up.

But realized few thing during this process that our will power is solely responsible for choosing the path between good and evil. Initially we may follow the path of righteous, which is very difficult when we have so many negative vibes around us. But our tendency to lean towards evil increase when we come across set backs and hardships. Its here when we start loosing our confidence, which effects our decision making skills

Its just like "Worth of thing is realized only when it is lost" in the same manner our realization of mistake is known when we face the consequences of deeds done by us. A person identity is by the deeds done by him, which depends on his ability to withstand tough situation. Its human nature to go for things which are easily available than trying for tough ones. Those who have the ability to determination and courage to pass through any situation can be a winner.

All of us try to be a winner but only few emerge out. Would like to meet few such people who have not bend before hardship and moved till they attain their goal..

Are reality shows real?

Now lot of reality shows have thronged various channels in TV, people are enjoying it. But sometimes I feel the entire concept and show has been scripted. The way things take turn in such show are no were close to reality, they seem fabricated. That's the basic reason why most of the reality shows run into controversy.

Yesterday while watching " Big Boss" I felt the same, how can people start targeting each other so silly reasons. Attention is given to individuals on weekly basis i,e if one episode revolves around one person then next day some one else will be show cased even though his acts are not worth watching.

Same was the case with " Pati, Patni aur woh" participant were forced to run their household expense in Rs 3000/ a week at the beginning of show. During later episode participants were found buying gifts worth Rs 2200/ in one go, a drastic change. Will they be able to manage their their house in Rs 800/ for the remaining days of the week. Initially celebs place and nature of work was shown later stages this thing also vanished in to thin air.

Its not that we don't understand these things but nobody wants to raise these things in open. When we compare the life of a common in real life and in a reality show their is lot of difference in it. Though the situation in both the cases are same but outcome varies a lot, why? This is the place suspicion arises and the questions are raised on the credibility of the show.

Reality shows benefit mobile providers a lot as winners are decided through sms and each cost 3rs than a rupee. People learn how to back stab each other in real life through such shows. Thats the TRP of the show.

Even then if people watch reality show its for the simple reason that such shows are time framed not like tele serials will goes for ages together. Will you watch "Big Boss'? I will for sure

A date with doctor..

Even after coming from a family of doctors and nurses, I still tremble with fear pre consulting a doc. I need some one to accompany me, alone it seems bit too difficult for me. When I was in varanasi their was no issues, knew most the doctors because of my mom. Was always sure of being in safe hands and didn't had to wait for consultation. But here in bangalore don't know any doctor personally so find it difficult to approach them.

Luckily my cousin is doing internship post BAMS has been of great help and support. He is the one who will fix my appointment with his seniors or the doctors he know. More over he needs to be their with me during consultation to keep my spirits high.

15 days ago I fell ill and my doctor was out of town, left with no options left had to consult a new doctor referred by mine one. I was even ready to wait till my doc returns back but things were critical then, so possibility was ruled out. He too was a gentle man but somewhere comfort level was missing between us, which is most essential thing between patient and his doc. He did recommend me to take some test to reason out the cause of illness.

I am scared of injection and blood test require it, was in a dilemma what to do? Whether to go for it or skip it? Finally decided to try it after pondering thoughts for 7 days. My cousin's friend work their so the viability of the result was high. I got inside the room and the attendant took my blood, asked us to wait for 30 mins for results.

It was most strainful period, just wanted the report to be normal. Wait of 30 mins was like of ages, mind was pondering with negative thoughts. What if the results are not normal? Whom to consult next and all? In 15 mins the test results were out, everything was normal, couldn't believe it. Checked the results my self as most of them were strips. My happiness was beyond words at that moment.

Though doctors are life savers but one needs to think twice between consulting him in occurrence of an illness. Whats the reason for it, is it fear or something else?

Emotional breakdown when family return home

Last Saturday my sis came to be with me with for a week, it was great fun. Always had an enthusiasm to go home as someone was waiting for me. On reaching home dinner used to prepared by both of us, things were too easy then, than normal days when I am alone at room. At times felt pity for her because throughout the day she was alone, luckily she entertained herself with the idiot box TV (avid movie watcher).

Didn't knew how the week passed by , same was her condition even. Some time outside hostel away from books, hostel food, rule, faculty etc. She made me remember my MBA days when I used to visit my cousins on every possible holiday to live life outside curriculum and food, which did drive me crazy.

She took control of my kitchen and prepared all those things which she wanted to have all spicy food items. It was pleasure seeing her having food to her content and likes. My kitchen and room use to be bit more tidy than usual as their was some one back home to take of things. Otherwise Saturday was the only day when I used to clean my room and out things in order.

Yesterday while dropping her back in hostel didn't feel much but when returned home, started missing her like anything. Now I was all alone in room to fight the world. Went to bed early than usual timing to evade being sentimental.

When people come to our life they make us happy but, when departure time fill in more sadness than happiness. But is part of life we have to accept it..

Trauma post terror attacks

Today its first anniversary of 26/11. Lot has been done by media to encash the feeling of people like publicizing articles, documentary, sms campaign to name a few. Special prier meeting is being conducted for those who laid their life in fight against terrorism. I feel we have somewhere forgotten those who were eyewitness or suffers of this incident.

While reading the latest issue of "The Week" came to know that still people are come to term post completion of an year of the incident. Still few are in hospitals undergoing surgery after surgery to get them back. Monetary help received by them was less in comparison to what they have born till and in future.

I remember the incident of Mr. Ransley Senthumayor (29), who is still in hospital with the sole hope of being able to stand on his feet one day. He received monetary compensation of Rs 1.5 lack but till now his total expenditure in hospital has been close to 6 lakh, that's not the end. If he want to stand on his feet then need to under go few more surgeries till date 7 has already been performed on him.

There would be few more like him , who may not even have the money to treat them or may use it to feed their family. These are the people who need to get attention and support from masses and media. But nobody thinks about them as they can't mint money others like others. Can anyone tell me has humanity been degraded to such an extend today that we only care for money and not for human feeling and sufferings.

Isn't it our duty and responsibility to something for those people who have been left alone to fight the trauma of terror?

After effects of rain on bikers

This year monsoon was poor in all parts of India. Bangalore was no better. Water problem has been a major cause of concern for most of us. Bore wells dried up and people had to depend on tankers for carrying out basic activities.

God was kind enough to bless people with rain showers but timing was wrong. It mostly rained by 6 pm when people leave office and traffic is on high peak. Due to rain bikers like me take shelter in any building only cars and buses can ply the road. Once rain stop bikes throng road like anything leading to big traffic blockade.

Then people start saying why did it rain?I always pray that it should rain post 7pm when am at home. Biggest problem is my clothes & shoes get spoiled up, which I hate to the core. Reaching home takes longer duration than usual ie an hour or more from 45 mins. If it rains of Friday then no problem as saturday is holiday. But on normal normal week days its unbearable.

Yesterday it started raining by 4.30pm and stopped by 5.30 I was happy thinking their won't traffic on road , but to my utter despair it was huge traffic on road courtesy a truck , which broke down in the middle of the road. Don't know why can't wait to reach home once clock strikes 6pm in office. If anyone finds me in office post 6pm they are shocked including my manager. If I am late sometime, he reminds me to go home. But when it starts raining he is very happy as I can't get out of office till the rain stops but he leaves on time in his car.

Whatever it is rain is good for the nation and the masses, hope it rains more and farmers get good crops.

Joy of buying gifts to loved ones

After a long wait my sister managed came to be with me for a week. Luckily she came on Saturday so we had ample to spend together. We both are staying in same city hardly 10 km from each other but even then can't meet every week because of our commitments. Even If I go to meet her can't stay for more than an hour hostel rule you see.

Due to some function in her college we were able to spent some time together, as she is not participating in any of the event because of her ill health. First we did after coming out of her hostel was to go for shopping. She is going home next month , wanted to sent some gift for dad. Once we were in shop I felt like buying some things for her even. When I asked her to select few things for her she said no, because already bill was high. Ignoring the rising bill I bought few things for her. When reached the billing counter didn't know what but I was feeling to happy. Usually experience it when I shop something for my family members.

When I shop things for my self hardly I get this feeling. Though my basic agenda is to save money but at such moment saving doesn't strike me. It strike me once I receive my credit card bill at the end of the month.

But now I can realize how our parents would have felt when they fulfilled our wishes and desires. Couple of time they have sacrificed their happiness to see smile on our faces. Even now when I go home dad gets all those things which I love to have and mom prepares most delicious food. When we go out they don't allow me to bear expenses saying you save your money but some how my conscious doesn't allow me to do so. Finally payments are done by me.

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Agony of comman man

It has been long since I posted blog time but from now on, have decided to post blog regularly. Life was messy these days forcing me to concentrate fully on myself. My mom did gift me a bike during my graduation days on my birthday. With passing year it had become old but I didn't feel like buying a new one because my attachment to it. But unfortunately I my bike got stolen 2 weeks ago from my house. Was too sad and didn't knew what to do?

First thing I had to do was to file an F.I.R regarding loss of bike. I went to police station with my elder brother to file the complain but to our utter despair, police personnel were not ready to pay deed to our words. They asked us to come in evening as it was too early to file complain, if they may recover the bike then it would be difficult for us to claim it. We went to police station in evening but again their casual approach forced us to leave the place. Seems like police force has forgotten that" F.I.R needs to filed with in 24 hours post occurrence of an incident" .

Next day again I went to police station, this time all alone as my brother was not free. The Inspector started questioning me not regarding my bike but about my profession, my income, family background. Was pretty shocked at his attitude but had to get my work done so has to bear him.When he came to know that I work for media house, a seriousness surrounded him. Inquired more about my company and job profile. The end result of this inquiry was come tomorrow. " A tomorrow which never comes".

I was fed of my frequent visit to police station, finally my brother told me, if they don't file complain today ie 4 days after the incident we will approach higher authority or press media. But before we could use our influence in society they handed us the copy of F.I.R. May they had foreseen their future.

While coming back from police station was wondering ,if I had to struggle so much to get a complain filed, what would be the plight of ordinary man? If educated people have of suffer so much, god only knows what will happen to illiterate people? My visits to police station had some where given a feeling in myself that I had committed some sin. I was their just to perform my duty as a law abiding citizen. But was shocked to see that law protectors has forgotten law. Who needs to be responsible for it?

Recession weapon for employer or curse to employees?

Recession has armed companies to reframe company policies to suit them the best, be it big companies or small firms. All have joined the brigade to torture the employees.

First axe is on their pay package “ no hike till market regain its old glory but their job responsibility has been hiked, as the salary which companies are paying to employees has suddenly become too much to be borne by them”. If employees want to don’t want to under go salary cut its better they take up more responsibility, if not move out. Though the decision is left to employees but they don’t have much say in it.

Second axe on leaves “According to government rules pvt firms are suppose to give 20 leave to their employees annually”. Companies know employees won’t raise voice to any injustice done to them during recession so they have reduced the number of leaves of employees to 10 in a year. They have even axed public holiday challenging the decision of government. Seems like have the law of land for granted.

Third axe on working hours “Employees are expected to put in more hours, without any hike in salary”. Earlier standard working hours in pvt sector firms was 9 hours now has been hiked to10hrs. Even if you complete your work earlier you have warm your seat for 10 hours. In which book has it been mentioned that “spending more hours on at your desk lead to more productivity”.

Can’t understand why companies attitude has changed drastically towards their employees? Why can’t they retain the same attitude which they had towards them during boom? How can an employer expect loyalty from their employees when he himself isn’t loyal? Companies can fire anyone without prior notice but when employees look for a change they need to give notice to company… why?

Its high time companies revamp their ways, else will suffer in future because economy has started recovering, soon will be on track. That time employers shouldn’t complain about the disassociation of their employees from them…

How should raggers be dealt with..?

Ragging has become a national concern in the wake of 2 recent incidents, which rocked the nation at large. But why do people wake up only when some loses his life or an attempt to suicide is done? Why don’t people wake much before to avoid such incidents? Parents should take proactive measure to find a cure for this menace to avoid regression at later stages. Every year lakhs of student enroll themselves to various colleges for various courses, but nobody bothers to enquire about anti ragging measures in colleges. Students take it for granted, thinking will tackle it when the situation arises. But ragging is an inevitable part of the curriculum which doesn’t attract much of attention of student in comparison to other subjects.

Only few parents try to inquire about the past history of the colleges, especially in terms of incidents of ragging. Even then such incidents keep happening why? Colleges give assurance to parents at the time of admission that ragging is not permitted in their colleges and all precautionary measures have been taken into consideration to tackle with raggers. If these assurances were really trustworthy, then incidents of ragging should surface but in reality freshers are ragged by their senior’s and colleges are not aware about it, till some untoward incident occur. Reason for it is that college authority take responsibility of students only for their campus and classrooms, hostels are often overlooked by them. Incidents of ragging are reported only in hostel in comparison to any other place.

Though Supreme Court has come out with ruling to deal with raggers and the colleges supporting it, but seems like students have not taken it seriously. I feel capital punishment should be awarded to those students who indulge in ragging, it shouldn’t be treated as an attempt to death only then students will fear it and deter from it, at least thinking about the intensity of their deeds. In colleges where ragging is reported, affiliations of the college should be cancelled.

Selection of hostel warden should be done on strict criteria. In case of ragging they should also be treated as culprit in crime and be executed accordingly. Hostels for seniors and freshers should be at distance and should have adequate security for the safety of students.

All these could be few suggestions, but to get it implemented we need to stand united to fight for this cause. Parents and students need to take a lead in this regard. Each of us will have to ragging one day or other, either to us directly or to our kids indirectly.