How difficult it is to say "No"?

Most of us would have come across this situation at point of their life when they had to say no to someone close to them. With strangers its not an issue, we don't even think twice to use the term, difficulty arise with our family and friends. A single word can harm many so use of the word and situation must be tactful.

Today came across such situation where a friends of mine had put forward an unrealistic demand in front of me. Usually I accept his demand and do the needful but today said no to him. I didn't want to stake our friendship so had to spend some time in making things clear to him. But still feel of guilt has engulfed me, seems like can't forget his last words. Though he was compose but his voice was not complementing his gesture.

Will talk to him for clarifying my stand but not now, he won't listen to me or things may go worse. This feeling is temporary but still keep taunting throughout till it gets subsided. But one thing is for sure I will stick to my stand come whatever it may. To achieve something good you need to make some sacrifices will consider this incident one among them.

Taking stands are easy but implementing it on someone close it very difficult at time people even change their decision to avoid certain situations.

Differciating between good and evil

Its difficult to follow the path of honestly, sincerity and goodness in long run, utmost a person can follow it for a month or more not beyond that. Often thought about it but finding an answer was a tough deal so decided to follow the path myself. Initially things were easy because of enthusiasm but of late it started becoming difficult one day finally gave up.

But realized few thing during this process that our will power is solely responsible for choosing the path between good and evil. Initially we may follow the path of righteous, which is very difficult when we have so many negative vibes around us. But our tendency to lean towards evil increase when we come across set backs and hardships. Its here when we start loosing our confidence, which effects our decision making skills

Its just like "Worth of thing is realized only when it is lost" in the same manner our realization of mistake is known when we face the consequences of deeds done by us. A person identity is by the deeds done by him, which depends on his ability to withstand tough situation. Its human nature to go for things which are easily available than trying for tough ones. Those who have the ability to determination and courage to pass through any situation can be a winner.

All of us try to be a winner but only few emerge out. Would like to meet few such people who have not bend before hardship and moved till they attain their goal..

Are reality shows real?

Now lot of reality shows have thronged various channels in TV, people are enjoying it. But sometimes I feel the entire concept and show has been scripted. The way things take turn in such show are no were close to reality, they seem fabricated. That's the basic reason why most of the reality shows run into controversy.

Yesterday while watching " Big Boss" I felt the same, how can people start targeting each other so silly reasons. Attention is given to individuals on weekly basis i,e if one episode revolves around one person then next day some one else will be show cased even though his acts are not worth watching.

Same was the case with " Pati, Patni aur woh" participant were forced to run their household expense in Rs 3000/ a week at the beginning of show. During later episode participants were found buying gifts worth Rs 2200/ in one go, a drastic change. Will they be able to manage their their house in Rs 800/ for the remaining days of the week. Initially celebs place and nature of work was shown later stages this thing also vanished in to thin air.

Its not that we don't understand these things but nobody wants to raise these things in open. When we compare the life of a common in real life and in a reality show their is lot of difference in it. Though the situation in both the cases are same but outcome varies a lot, why? This is the place suspicion arises and the questions are raised on the credibility of the show.

Reality shows benefit mobile providers a lot as winners are decided through sms and each cost 3rs than a rupee. People learn how to back stab each other in real life through such shows. Thats the TRP of the show.

Even then if people watch reality show its for the simple reason that such shows are time framed not like tele serials will goes for ages together. Will you watch "Big Boss'? I will for sure

A date with doctor..

Even after coming from a family of doctors and nurses, I still tremble with fear pre consulting a doc. I need some one to accompany me, alone it seems bit too difficult for me. When I was in varanasi their was no issues, knew most the doctors because of my mom. Was always sure of being in safe hands and didn't had to wait for consultation. But here in bangalore don't know any doctor personally so find it difficult to approach them.

Luckily my cousin is doing internship post BAMS has been of great help and support. He is the one who will fix my appointment with his seniors or the doctors he know. More over he needs to be their with me during consultation to keep my spirits high.

15 days ago I fell ill and my doctor was out of town, left with no options left had to consult a new doctor referred by mine one. I was even ready to wait till my doc returns back but things were critical then, so possibility was ruled out. He too was a gentle man but somewhere comfort level was missing between us, which is most essential thing between patient and his doc. He did recommend me to take some test to reason out the cause of illness.

I am scared of injection and blood test require it, was in a dilemma what to do? Whether to go for it or skip it? Finally decided to try it after pondering thoughts for 7 days. My cousin's friend work their so the viability of the result was high. I got inside the room and the attendant took my blood, asked us to wait for 30 mins for results.

It was most strainful period, just wanted the report to be normal. Wait of 30 mins was like of ages, mind was pondering with negative thoughts. What if the results are not normal? Whom to consult next and all? In 15 mins the test results were out, everything was normal, couldn't believe it. Checked the results my self as most of them were strips. My happiness was beyond words at that moment.

Though doctors are life savers but one needs to think twice between consulting him in occurrence of an illness. Whats the reason for it, is it fear or something else?

Emotional breakdown when family return home

Last Saturday my sis came to be with me with for a week, it was great fun. Always had an enthusiasm to go home as someone was waiting for me. On reaching home dinner used to prepared by both of us, things were too easy then, than normal days when I am alone at room. At times felt pity for her because throughout the day she was alone, luckily she entertained herself with the idiot box TV (avid movie watcher).

Didn't knew how the week passed by , same was her condition even. Some time outside hostel away from books, hostel food, rule, faculty etc. She made me remember my MBA days when I used to visit my cousins on every possible holiday to live life outside curriculum and food, which did drive me crazy.

She took control of my kitchen and prepared all those things which she wanted to have all spicy food items. It was pleasure seeing her having food to her content and likes. My kitchen and room use to be bit more tidy than usual as their was some one back home to take of things. Otherwise Saturday was the only day when I used to clean my room and out things in order.

Yesterday while dropping her back in hostel didn't feel much but when returned home, started missing her like anything. Now I was all alone in room to fight the world. Went to bed early than usual timing to evade being sentimental.

When people come to our life they make us happy but, when departure time fill in more sadness than happiness. But is part of life we have to accept it..

Trauma post terror attacks

Today its first anniversary of 26/11. Lot has been done by media to encash the feeling of people like publicizing articles, documentary, sms campaign to name a few. Special prier meeting is being conducted for those who laid their life in fight against terrorism. I feel we have somewhere forgotten those who were eyewitness or suffers of this incident.

While reading the latest issue of "The Week" came to know that still people are come to term post completion of an year of the incident. Still few are in hospitals undergoing surgery after surgery to get them back. Monetary help received by them was less in comparison to what they have born till and in future.

I remember the incident of Mr. Ransley Senthumayor (29), who is still in hospital with the sole hope of being able to stand on his feet one day. He received monetary compensation of Rs 1.5 lack but till now his total expenditure in hospital has been close to 6 lakh, that's not the end. If he want to stand on his feet then need to under go few more surgeries till date 7 has already been performed on him.

There would be few more like him , who may not even have the money to treat them or may use it to feed their family. These are the people who need to get attention and support from masses and media. But nobody thinks about them as they can't mint money others like others. Can anyone tell me has humanity been degraded to such an extend today that we only care for money and not for human feeling and sufferings.

Isn't it our duty and responsibility to something for those people who have been left alone to fight the trauma of terror?

After effects of rain on bikers

This year monsoon was poor in all parts of India. Bangalore was no better. Water problem has been a major cause of concern for most of us. Bore wells dried up and people had to depend on tankers for carrying out basic activities.

God was kind enough to bless people with rain showers but timing was wrong. It mostly rained by 6 pm when people leave office and traffic is on high peak. Due to rain bikers like me take shelter in any building only cars and buses can ply the road. Once rain stop bikes throng road like anything leading to big traffic blockade.

Then people start saying why did it rain?I always pray that it should rain post 7pm when am at home. Biggest problem is my clothes & shoes get spoiled up, which I hate to the core. Reaching home takes longer duration than usual ie an hour or more from 45 mins. If it rains of Friday then no problem as saturday is holiday. But on normal normal week days its unbearable.

Yesterday it started raining by 4.30pm and stopped by 5.30 I was happy thinking their won't traffic on road , but to my utter despair it was huge traffic on road courtesy a truck , which broke down in the middle of the road. Don't know why can't wait to reach home once clock strikes 6pm in office. If anyone finds me in office post 6pm they are shocked including my manager. If I am late sometime, he reminds me to go home. But when it starts raining he is very happy as I can't get out of office till the rain stops but he leaves on time in his car.

Whatever it is rain is good for the nation and the masses, hope it rains more and farmers get good crops.